Dating in Korea

Oh. I forgot. Ramen emailed me this morning. It seemed like he hadn't gotten my previous reply.

Hi~ Grace

E-mail sent to you in a long time.

You’re still in America? Visa fixed?

Now South Korea is the winter. Too cold.

The first snow had come last week, If you have seen it would have liked.

Just like the old days, I go around the company’s work.
Ah, 태양 of the Big Bang did a solo album. It’s so good. Title is the Wedding Dresses title.

Have you heard?
Anyway, Have a great time, anywhere. Bye~

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I have no idea what to say or think. I mean who knows. I AM sad I missed the first snow fall. It’s my favorite day of winter. I know I told him that when we were dating. And yeah, it’s nice that he remembered that I love Big Bang. (Okay, truthfully, it’d be hard for any guy I dated to forget that.) But….seriously? I feel as if I’m being toyed with. I’d bet all my savings he’s still single. Computer engineers tend to be like that. and I’d be all my savings he’s still into me. But I really don’t think we’ll ever get back together. Which is sad and makes this email exchange even more pathetic.

So I’m not sure if I’m going to reply to this one. And by that I mean I know I will 100% reply, because that’s who I am, however, if I was a different girl I wouldn’t. But I’m not. So this stupid cycle will continue. Hey, no one ever said I was the smartest girl on the planet.

Oh the things people on OkCupid say. Was it not obvious I didn't want to have the conversation? I thought it was.

Here is a classic example of two things.

1. A guy trying too hard.

2. A guy being a perv.

It’s pretty textbook. I’ll break it down to make it more obvious.

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Part 1—Here a guy that just landed in Korea 18hours ago. Here is a girl that is talking to him to be polite. Until the conversation turns.

Loser: So you are into the asian men, huh?
Me: Haha. Yes, somewhat. Why do you ask?
Loser: It just seems that it is the guys who are into the asian women more often than the other way around.
Me: I agree. It’s a tough job, but someone’s got to do it. Haha^^
Loser: ha
Me: Are you into the ladies?
Loser: well as long as you go both ways then ha
Me: I mean the Asian ladies?
Loser: ha, i am definitely into ladies. havent been with an asian woman, so we’ll see. but you can’t go wrong with an american girl
Me: This is true.

That is me agreeing that American girls are awesome. Because, you know, I’m an American girl. I guess 18hours makes your mind dirty. Which wouldn’t be a bad thing. But he clearly is terrible at being clever. Ugh.

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Part 2—Here is me trying to deflect the conversation. I think it would be obvious that I was not interested in talking about this with him given the way I responded. Guess not.

Loser: ha, oh yea, you’re into the american girls as well?
Me: Wouldn’t you like that.
Loser: eh, only if i was there as well, otherwise it really doesnt do much for me ;)
Me: Hahaha. Good.
Loser: oh, good how?
Me: I was just saying. Nothing really.
Loser: hmmm i dunno, sounded like an invite to me
Me: I think your ears are still stuffed from the flight over. I don’t see how you’re not tired…
Loser: that’s not all that would be stuffed…. i mean… ha

Yes. He did say that. You didn’t read it wrong.

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Part 4—Here is me leaving. Here is the guy still trying to keep the convo going. I actually closed the window and only got the last part in the morning. Gross.

Me: Well it’s almost 2am here and I am pretty beat so I’m going to call it a night. But welcome to Korea. Try the kimchi.^^
Loser: will do, let me know when you get here we’ll do some drinking and see if we can find you an american girl.

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Team Edward? Haha. No.

I totally just bought the Team Eric design in a tank. I have just crossed over some sort of defining line. I am aware. There is no need to remind me.

(This is what I get for having two peppermint mochas in one day. I’m on some sort of coffee high.)

Nothing.

I have no new emails to report. Nothing interesting happened tonight.

I went and saw New Moon tonight. I found myself grouped with the ‘early 30s’ and ‘Grandma in her 50s’ women based on when we laughed and when the teens all laughed. I was amused.

Also, I not on Team Edward or Team Jacob. I find them both awkward and controlling. Besides, if I was sleeping next to a marble rock at night I’d be freezing. (My feet get cold easily. Sexy, I know.) And if I was sleeping next to a wolf with 108F temperature I’d be boiling. (And I like to sleep with a blanket. Even in the summer.) So clearly, I wouldn’t be a match with either of them. My true match is Eric. That’s right, TEAM KOREA, baby. We went to Hot Topic to see if they had Team Eric shirts, but they did not. I came home and designed one. Heck yeah, I am that awesome. I am also almost nerdy enough to buy one. 80% convinced right now.^^

Random Kpop.

2PM is known as being the BEASTLY IDOLS.

For being the so-called ‘beastly idols’ they sure looked mighty uncomfortable when doing the Ivy dance. (Especially when she was choosing the  guy.) I was laughing. Not sexy, boys. You aren’t fooling anyone.

Craigslist top guy.

Right now there are two guys sharing my #1 spot of Favorite Guy.

One of them just emailed me and told me this:

Then you’ll come to Korea about a week later? And can we meet at that time? ^^
I’m gonna be waiting. : )
Hmm you’ll live alone in the house? Actually I live alone in front of my school. Sometimes I feel lonely.
So I’ve brought up a kitten since 10 days ago.hehe. He is sooo cute. I’ll show you later.

Uh…did he say he’s waiting for me? Yes. Did he just say kitten? Yes.  Did he say he LIVES ALONE? Yes. Holy Jackpot of Wonders. Did he possibly just knock the other guy out of the running? Heck yeah!

…..am I being a sap because I have a cat and the first thought that ran through my mind was that our cats can be friends? Quite possibly. But whatever.

Uh oh.

hotyellowfellows:

It’s 6:30am on a Saturday morning, and I am just now stumbling home. Since I’m going out tomorrow night, too, tonight was supposed to be my early night out. No such luck. Tonight was also supposed to be my “good” night out — and it was for the first bit.

But then I went to Tin Pan. And I did bad things. One of these bad things was easily the most gorgeous guy I’ve ever hooked up with and his English was great and he was an excellent kisser. After he left, I moved on to even worse things. It was still bad at the bar, but then, well, I went to a DVD bang with him.

Look, Eager and I never discussed exclusivity. If we had, I wouldn’t have done anything. But since it hasn’t been brought up, well… I feel guilty, of course, but it’s not like I broke any rules. It’s not like I’m going to tell him either. I’ve been missing him all day and have been wanting to, er, spend some alone time with him, but we were both busy tonight. And tomorrow night. So I had some alone time with someone else, which was kind of fun because the passion was there, unlike J, and I knew I wasn’t going to see him again, so I really just let loose. But I still feel kind of bad in retrospect.

Why do I make bad decisions when it comes to Korean men.

Haha. Bad things always happen at Tin Pan. I swear. (Next time try NB.) And anyway, you and Eager are not exclusive yet. I see nothing wrong with what you did. It didn’t even sound like you two had a ‘are we dating’ talk yet.

Btw, I am so jealous. One of my goals next year is to hook up in a DVD bang. (That and go to a jjimjilbang with a boy. But there would be no hooking up there. Just steaming in the 200C hot room that is my heaven on earth.) Haha.

CompE.

If you look at CompE’s profile on OKCupid it says:

31/M/Straight/Seeing Someone.

Well, I finally worked the guts up to ask him since we’ve been talking about dating lately. Turns out he meant ‘finding someone’ as in ‘I wanna make a girl friend.’ Which really….well, lucky me.^^

Most other girls won’t contact him because of what it says and I know the truth. I am happy. Besides, he cute.

So I'm watching You're Beautiful...

….and my fullscreen gets minimized because of this message.

KFF: hi grace where are you? sleep?^^?
KFF: i cant see you 2days
KFF: miss you and want talk you haha shy >_<
KFF: anyway i hope you have good day
KFF: see you next time

It kinda made my night better. Not gonna lie.

Bad day means no emails for my Kboys.

Had a bad phone call with my future supervisor tonight. Before I’ve even arrived I was yelled at on the phone and made to carry a huge burden. (I’ve only met her once before so it was not a good start to our relationship.) *sigh* This is Korea for you. Because of this, I don’t feel up to writing any of my Kboys tonight. I think the emails would be all downers and such so I’ll wait for tomorrow. Haha.

On the plus, looks like I’ll be in Korea on Dec. 3rd. Which is exciting. But, a bit delayed. I also pulled a muscle in my neck and have been unable to turn it all day. So cool, right? Haha. I took a muscle relaxant which did not heal anything, just made me sleep for a few hours, and have been wearing an Icy/Hot patch to heal it. This is also not doing much besides making me remember my childhood and Vick’s VapoRub. Clearly, my life is one big ball of fun lately. I shall endeavor to be more interesting tomorrow.

That said, I am now off to watch You’re Beautiful. Because if anything can take my mind off my day for an hour or two it’s Shinwoo and Jeremy. Oh how I love those boys.

Introducing Sunglasses.

Well. He’s pretty cute. He sent me his picture early on and he was wearing some nice shades. We continued chatting and he’s rather a sweet guy and one of my best prospects so far. I’m always excited to see his emails in my inbox. Last night he sent me more pictures of himself (fully clothed!) and I must say he’s still handsome without the shades. And. Dare I say this because it sounds bad…he looks tall. In the photos. I KNOW I KNOW. But whatever.

All in all these boys are getting more and more excited that I am coming back. Today Sunglasses wrote this: So! You’re coming! It’s hard to wait, let me know when you get your visa!

Seriously. It’s hard not to smile at that. Am I right?